Pacifying a crying baby is one of the top priority among parents. They cry for many reasons such that parents are sometimes even confused on what they should do. Thinking in the shoes of your little one, you should also take a moment to understand why they cry. They are unable to speak to you to make you understand their concern. When they try different methods to make you understand, they found out that crying works the best to gain your attention. Therefore, when they want or need something that they cannot get in time, they may resort to crying. Medical researchers have come up with lists of reasons baby may cry, to inform parents about the range of seriousness that could be happening in your little one. We will be discussing about the reasons and solutions in great depth. With this knowledge, you will be able to reduce crying by spotting the early signs.
Yes, hunger affects newborn the most, their stomach is still developing and is very small in size. They can feel hungry very easily. Learning to recognize the signs of hunger will help you start your baby’s feedings before they start crying. You will also need to consider if you are feeding him formula milk or breast milk. Comparing formula milk and breast milk, breast milk is more easily digested by the baby. Breast feeding should be ‘on demand’, feed when you find your baby hungry, which is generally 0.5-3 hours. Statistics have shown that breastfeeding is needed, 8-12 times per day during the first month. Subsequent months will be reduced to around 7-9 times. Formula milk should also be done ‘on demand’. Statistics shows that newborn should be fed every 2-3 hours, increasing 3-4 hours when they grow bigger. Please note that newborn should not go more than 4 hours without feeding, even overnight. Do not hesitate to wake them up even if they are sleeping soundly, they should constantly be fed.
Signs Of Hunger
Crying is a late hunger signal, which means that your baby is already hungry for a period of time. Knowing the early signs of hunger can allow feeding before crying occur.
Early Hunger Signs
- Smacking or licking lips
- Opening and closing mouth
- Sucking on lips, tongue, hands, fingers, toes, toys, or clothing
Active Hunger Signs
- Rooting around on the chest of whoever is carrying him
- Trying to position for nursing, either by lying back or pulling on your clothes
- Fidgeting or squirming around a lot
- Hitting you on the arm or chest repeatedly
- Fussing or breathing fast
Late Hunger Signs
- Moving head frantically from side to side
Quite a number of babies do not seem to mind about it unless they feel irritated by it. While some will let you know straight up when it is time for a change.
You can check their diapers occasionally by squeezing and touching. You will be a pro after a few attempts of checking. Be observant, they will also give signs of discomfort when they are about to poo. You will be able to recognize the signs and know when is it time to change their nappy.
Colic is the term used when a healthy baby is crying excessively and cannot be pacified. All babies cry, so how do you deem it to be excessive? Crying is excessive if it totals three hours a day and happens more than three days a week for at least three weeks. Medical experts called it a stage of PURPLE crying®. PURPLE is an acronym and the letters stand for:
- Peak of crying. Your baby may cry more each week, the most at two months, then less at between three months and five months.
- Unexpected crying. It can come and go and you don’t know why.
- Resists soothing. Unfortunately, your baby may not stop crying, no matter what you try.
- Pain-like face. Your baby may look as if she is in pain, but it’s unlikely that she is.
- Long-lasting periods of crying. It can last for several hours a day.
- Evening. Your baby is most likely to cry more in the late afternoon and evening.
Colic usually happen to newborn from the age of 2 weeks to the age of around 4 months. It is not harmful to a baby, however it will be more ‘painful’ to you instead. Please be patient and tell yourself that this phase will pass.
Fortunately, there are ways to treat colic. You should try on these methods one by one if it does not work for a period of time, proceed to the next. There is NO one method that will work on all babies. One of the methods that we recommend is by using the Bowen technique which re-balances the nervous system, to provide relief. Please rest assured that this technique uses a very gentle touch. You can watch the video as shown below.
Do you notice the instant relief to the baby? Many parents are using the Bowen technique to help them pass throughout the colic phase. Bowen technique not only reliefs colic it has other benefits as well. Take a look at some of the testimonials of the happy parents.
‘Our baby Jacob suffered from very bad colic almost every day and night. After trying every method available on the market, we came across Baby Bowen and decided to give it a try. I was astonished at how gentle it was and I should add, extremely skeptical, but after the first treatment, we noticed an instantaneous change! He was so calm and at peace it was amazing. The bouts of colic stopped after the treatment and he is sleeping so much better…so am I!’
‘I only wished I had come across Baby Bowen sooner! Our baby girl suffered from a blocked nose for two weeks. After trying Baby Bowen, she was able to breathe much better almost immediately! I now use Baby Bowen whenever she is in any pain. She loves the treatment and is always happy and smiling after’.
‘So simple, so gentle and so effective!!Thank you for treating us and teaching me the Bowen move for out lovely baby girl. She has been an absolute angel these past two weeks!’
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- Helping to unwind your baby after every meal. Bring your baby to sit upright on your lap and pat or rub his back to bring up wind. Massage his tummy gently in a clockwise movement to help move along trapped wind and poo.
- Hold him close to you such that he feels safe and comfortable. Recreating the sensations that he had in your womb.
- Bring your baby out for a walk in a stroller, the vibrations in the frame may soothe some of them.
Difficulty Falling Asleep
Babies find it hard to sleep when they are overly tired. When parents are oblivious to sleepy signs that their baby give. They continue to play with the baby keeping them active, resulting in them being exhausted. Some of these early signs include staring blankly into space, being quiet and still and yawning. Being unknown to these signs may make a parent or visitor feel that the baby is bored. It may result in parents or visitors over-stimulating the baby, making it harder for them to fall asleep.
- Be attentive to these signs, help your baby to sleep as soon as you notice these signs.
- If you have visitors, the attention of these doting visitors may stimulate your little one. Bring him to a quiet and dimmed room to help her calm down and switch off.
- Learn these 5 simple and natural ways to help your baby sleep.
Too Cold Or Too Hot
One of the best place to check your little one is his tummy. You can also check his hands and feet, but it will usually be cold. It is very easy for a baby to feel cold due to the small amount of insulating fat they have. It is important to keep them warm to ensure healthy growth and to prevent overheating as it may lead to SIDS.
- For a guide, usually they will need one more layer of clothing compared to you to be warm and comfortable.
- Check on their temperature regularly and if his tummy feels too hot, remove a layer, and if it feels cold, simply add one
Try cuddling when he cries. You may feel that its spoiling him, however, it will not happen in the early stages of birth. You can slowly reduce the cuddling time in future. At the start, they need lots of cuddling, physical contact and reassurance for comfort. They spent all of their time before birth within the mother’s womb, hearing the heartbeat, feeling all wrapped up and secure. Once out of birth, they are left alone facing the whole world by themselves. This will surely make them feel uncomfortable.
- Hold them close to your body when they cry. They will be relieved by your heartbeat, warmth and smell.
- Swinging him when holding close to you may give him additional comfort.
Being born, babies are being brought into a world of stimulation. A world of lights, sound, smell and senses. These stimulations are needed for a baby to learn about the world, however, at times they may find these stimulations to be too overwhelming. They may cry to let you know that they want to take a break from these stimulations.
- Many newborns are very sensitive to sounds which activates their Moro Reflexes. Swaddling is a technique to help them feel secure and many newborn love being swaddled. There are also many benefits to swaddling. We recommend SwaddleTots swaddles. Do you know that “The International Hip Dysplasia Institute acknowledges the SwaddleTots Swaddle as a “hip-healthy” product when used as directed.”. Make sure your baby is safe. Better be safe than sorry right?
- If your baby is too old for it, try bringing them to a serene area. Allowing them to cry for a while is also helpful as it allows them to vent and manage their discomfort.
Your little one may be the curious one. They want to see more and know more. Curiosity generally occurs in an older baby. You may notice that the only way to stop the crying is by bringing him out of the home. It may not be a bad thing that your baby is so curious. They will be able to see and learn more things. However, it will be quite tiring for you instead. Well, it is all worth it, isn’t it?
- You can bring them out in a front carrier, allowing them to see more. It also reduces the weight on your arms which is very taxing if you carry them for a long period of time.
- Mix them up with other babies, they will learn to interact and be occupied.
- Bring them out on a regular outing to kid-friendly places such as the zoo, playground, nature. Etc.
If you have met their needs and comfort and they are still crying, be on the look out. Usually when they are unwell, they will cry in an unusual tone from the one you are used to.
- First, rule out a fever by checking their temperature.
- No baby should cry excessively. Even if you suspect that they are having colic, bring them to a doctor to check for any underlying causes.
- If your baby cries do not seem right, trust your instinct, bring them to see a doctor immediately.
- If you notice breathing difficulty, immediately call 995 for an ambulance or bring them to the nearest accident and emergency (A&E).
All babies cry, some babies cry excessively for no rhyme or reason while some cry because of a need or want. If you suspect your baby to have colic, do check out this Bowen Technique. You may get confused for the reasons that they are crying. Be patient, you will be a pro at looking at signs that your baby will give after a few crying sessions. All babies are different, so only you will know them best. Note that not all crying is fake, do not ignore your newborn if he is crying. If you try all methods and he is still crying excessively, send him to a doctor for a check. Tell yourself that this phase of crying will pass. Good luck.